A Facebook follower posed the following question to me:
My mother really wants her name on the invitations and insists that my fiance’s parents’ names don’t need to be on them. But that seems rude to me because his parents are also helping monetarily. But putting his parents’ names on the invites is complicated because they’re divorced and both sets are helping out. Is there a way to word the invites so that my mom gets her name on them, and we don’t insult anyone/leave them out?
The most traditional invitation wording includes just the bride’s parents’ names, but this is traditional because in the past, the bride’s parents typically paid for the entire wedding.
These days, it’s not uncommon for both sets of parents’ names to be on the invitation, especially if they’re both contributing monetarily to the wedding. In fact, if they’re both contributing, then listing them both is only fair.
Although it may seem like wording the invitation could get complicated when one set of parents is divorced, it may not be as bad as you think. Here’s an example that I’ve adapted from Wedding Etiquette by Peggy Post (daughter of etiquette expert Emily Post):
Mrs. Mary Hannigan
Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Anvik
Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Jacobs
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of
[your fiance’s name]
Hope that helps!
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