Problem Solved: Whom Do I Invite to What?

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Can I invite people to the bridal shower/bachelorette party if they aren’t invited to the wedding, if the wedding is going to be a more intimate affair?

The general rule of thumb is no. However, there’s some wiggle room here. In some cases, if you’re having a truly small wedding and you have friends who would very much like being a part of the festivities in some capacity, that could be an exception to the rule.

In general, I’d recommend inviting them to the bachelorette party over the bridal shower. Inviting someone to a bridal shower could be seen as: You’re not invited to my wedding, but please get me a gift in honor of it anyways! On the other hand, a bachelorette party, which is not a gift-giving event, will seem more like an invitation to have fun with you in celebration of your wedding.

For more, watch our “Nontraditional Bachelorette Party Ideas” video.

Photo by Kristel Wyman


  1. I am having a very small wedding (only 30 poeple) and I had my bachelorette party last weekend and invited heaps of girlfriends that won’t be coming to the wedding (mainly work friends who won’t come to the wedding). I think it is perfectly ok. They all understand we are having a small wedding but that doesn’t stop me wanting to celebrate with ALL the great women in my life.

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