I don’t know about you, but I have pretty vivid pictures in my head when I plan things. I have to remind myself: No one else can see those pictures, so if reality doesn’t match them, no one knows. Two friends made me think of this when they told me stories from their weddings where events didn’t unfold as expected. What they learned: Going with it was better.
“I wish I let the band member who learned our song sing it rather than bugging out because the whole band hadn’t learned it, and using a recording. When he finally did get to sing it around midnight, it was awesome.”
And Scott of our featured couple (photos from their wedding coming soon — I promise!) had a somewhat similar experience:
He had written a song for a bluegrass trio to play when Tonia walked down the aisle. When I asked him how it turned out, he said it was different than he expected. I asked if that was a bad thing, and he said, “I guess I mean it was better.” He had written a slow song, but the trio “changed the feel of the tune and made it a little more upbeat, which suited the mood better.”
So keep in mind, things may go differently than planned, but they can still be fantastic.
If you’ve experienced or witnessed a wedding event that didn’t go as planned, please share! And if you’re still a planner at heart, check out our wedding checklist.