Why You Should Talk to Your Vendors After Your Wedding

simple blue hydrangea bouquet

Yesterday, Dana told us about the decisions she made pre-wedding that did and didn’t work out. Today she shares with us an after-the-wedding decision she wished she had handled differently.  In fact, it’s her main regret: She wishes she would have reached out to certain vendors and expressed her feelings on the services they provided. Two instances, in particular, come to mind:

  • When the bouquets arrived on her wedding day, Dana’s reaction (not vocalized to the florist) was, “What is that?” She had met with her florist twice, which required an expensive cross-country trip. She had very simple bouquets in mind and supplied photos that demonstrated what she wanted: blue hydrangea, grouped tightly together with some pretty ribbon around them, very similar to the one above. What showed up was yellow roses with a ring of hydrangeas around them. The yellow was especially a shock because that color had no other presence at the wedding, which had a color scheme of blue and brown. When Dana attempted to remove the roses, they left a gaping hole in the center of the bouquet that couldn’t be readjusted. So the bouquets were used as is. She wished she had written the florist later to tell her, “This isn’t what I wanted, and it wasn’t what I paid for.”
  • Her DJ, on the other hand, did exactly what was asked. He didn’t play the songs on the Do Not Play list. He got people on the dance floor. He didn’t talk over the songs. Dana wishes she had written him a thank you note.

Like many brides, Dana was exhausted after her wedding and reaching out to her vendors simply wasn’t on her mind. But now she feels that by not contacting them she did both the vendors and their future customers a disservice.

That said, there is one instance where she felt it was best to stay silent. Her wedding cake was not what she had hoped for. “I wanted a blue cake, but it was electric blue.” Yet, she didn’t feel this was the baker’s error. The baker did what she asked — it just wasn’t the blue she saw in her head. Dana’s reaction: “Well, that didn’t go as planned.” And she left it at that.

So after the wedding is over, if an element of your wedding seemed outstanding or problematic-yet-avoidable, consider taking a few minutes to reach out to your vendors — it will help make the wedding world become a better place.

To head off potential florist woes, check out our guide on “10 Questions to Ask Your Florist.”

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  1. My granddaughter is having a black and white wedding in September. As the bride’s grandmother, how important is it that my dress “match” the b&w color scheme? I do not want to clash or call attention to myself my wearing something colorful like a bright fall gold.

    Your advise will be much appreciated as I must begin my search soon.

  2. Hi Virginia! It depends on your granddaughter’s intentions. Does she intend for only the decor to be black and white, or does she mean that she wants guests to dress in black and white? I’d ask her to be sure. If it’s the latter, than I’d definitely opt for a black or white (or black AND white) dress over gold.

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